Online Dating

I don’t understand why there is such a stigma that is still attached to online dating. Yes when it first came out, people that went on it were very hush hush about their involvement, but now it is a great way of meeting people.

With people being very career orientated now, men and women, they have a lot less time to go out and meet someone. It is not very often that you will meet the love of your life in a nightclub or pub, yes it does happen but it isn’t a regular occurance.

Yes you have to go out and meet people of the opposite sex. If you do not do this then you will have no confidence or no clue as to how to actually interact with them when you come across one you actually like. It isn’t so bad in a pub or another social setting, there tends to be a group of you and you can actually hear what the person is saying, and if you are not getting along that well you can just go back to your friends. In a club it is so much harder. The music is too loud, people are too drunk, and let’s be honest, you are just looking for a pillow buddy for the night.

Add into that the long hours people work. The time they get to themselves they want to relax, unwind, chill with friends, not frantically run about trying to find their soul mate. Here is the beauty of internet dating.

The main ones go into intimate detail about you. They ask all sorts of questions that you yourself wouldn’t have even thought to ask a potential partner. They then take this and match you with someone they think is compatible, brilliant. All that hard work taken away by the click of a mouse. Now I’m not saying that you will be attracted to the person or person’s the computer finds for you, but you will be well suited and it will give you a starting point to look at other people on the site and maybe message a couple.

That leads nicely onto my next point. If you are the shy, retiring, unconfident type, then sending someone an email is the perfect way to strike up a conversation. There is no chance of getting the embarrassment of rejection, as no one else apart from the 2 of you know what has happened. If you strike lucky and they reply to you then boom, away you go, it is nice and easy. You can build it up, talk to them online, then maybe on the phone and the next thing you know you are on a date thinking ‘my god that wasn’t so bad.’ No my friend it wasn’t!

Now there is no excuse for you to say ‘oh there is nothing out there that I want.’ There most certainly is. There is sites that specialise in sugar daddy’s and mummy’s, there is religion only dating sites, there are sites just for people that want to make the 2 back monster asap, there are even sites for people that want to discreetly cheat on their partner.

Now all you haters out there will say 'how do you know the person that you are emailing is actually the person in the picture's.' You don't. Pure and simply you don't. It is a risk that you have to take if you are persuing the online dating. What I will say is that the, chances are, depending on what site you are on, that the person you are talking to is infact the person you see in the pictures before you. The more reputable the site the less chance of Michelle becoming Michael.

Times have changed people. Of course if you are one of the devilishly handsome/beautiful confident people that can strike up a conversation whilst waiting to pay for your groceries then well done you. if you are not though, don’t worry about going on internet dating, it is the way forward and if anyone says anything to you about it, then they are just jealous and not getting any. That is the thought for the day, tune in tomorrow for something else. Laters